What a difference!

My son, Ben, has never been a great sleeper but it never really felt that hard when I was on maternity leave.  For the first 8 months of his life i followed his lead and ended up co-sleeping, not something i had planned on doing but sometimes I just needed to get some sleep!  When he was 9 months, I went back to work.  Whether his sleep got worse or I just needed more sleep but things became so difficult.  He was waking hourly through the night, not going to sleep until 9pm and waking at 5am!  I was trying to do a job, be a mum and existing on 3 hours of broken sleep each night.  I was grumpy, distracted and exhausted!  I just kept telling myself that it would get better, that maybe if I buy this light machine or put on this lullaby that it would make a difference.  I just assumed that everyone must be going through this, that this was how it is with children.

One day after no sleep and the prospect of a week on my own while my husband was away with work, I will admit that I lost it!!  I was so tired, I felt like a total failure.  A friend recommended that I speak to Baby Tech Support.  She had used them with her son who was a similar age and was full of praise.  I will be honest and say that I was sceptical!  I assumed I would be told just to leave him to cry which I just couldn't do.  I couldn't have been more wrong!!  Gemma was so understanding and listened to everything that I had been going through and what I did and didn't want.  I needn't have worried because Gemma did not once suggest that I needed to do anything like cry it out.  Now that I think about it, her advice had nothing to do with the nighttime.  She explained everything that I should change and why I should change it - I felt a bit silly at first because it seemed so obvious!  Why hadn't I thought of that?!  I guess I was so caught up in exhaustion that I just couldn't see a way out of it!   I made some simple changes  and reduced the amount of sleep he was having during the day.  It was a big change from the go with the flow attitude that I had always had and it was quite hard work.  Within 6 days, he had slept for 8 hours straight at night, it wasn't all night but it was incredible to have such a long sleep at once!  Things continued to improve from there.  We are now only 2 weeks in and we have had 2 nights of sleeping through - I feel like a new woman!!  Actually Ben is happier now too, the change in him has been the best part of this process.

I would recommend Baby Tech Support to anyone struggling with no sleep.  I always thought that this is how it is supposed to be - he'll sleep through when he is ready and maybe he would've done eventually but I am so glad that I took steps to get us all some sleep now!  Why did I wait?!!  Thank you so much Gemma!

Tori K and Ben (9 months)