My son, Ben, has never been a great sleeper but it never really felt that hard when I was on maternity leave. For the first 8 months of his life i followed his lead and ended up co-sleeping, not something i had planned on doing but sometimes I just needed to get some sleep! When he was 9 months, I went back to work. Whether his sleep got worse or I just needed more sleep but things became so difficult. He was waking hourly through the night, not going to sleep until 9pm and waking at 5am! I was trying to do a job, be a mum and existing on 3 hours of broken sleep each night. I was grumpy, distracted and exhausted! I just kept telling myself that it would get better, that maybe if I buy this light machine or put on this lullaby that it would make a difference. I just assumed that everyone must be going through this, that this was how it is with children.
One day after no sleep and the prospect of a week on my own while my husband was away with work, I will admit that I lost it!! I was so tired, I felt like a total failure. A friend recommended that I speak to Baby Tech Support. She had used them with her son who was a similar age and was full of praise. I will be honest and say that I was sceptical! I assumed I would be told just to leave him to cry which I just couldn't do. I couldn't have been more wrong!! Gemma was so understanding and listened to everything that I had been going through and what I did and didn't want. I needn't have worried because Gemma did not once suggest that I needed to do anything like cry it out. Now that I think about it, her advice had nothing to do with the nighttime. She explained everything that I should change and why I should change it - I felt a bit silly at first because it seemed so obvious! Why hadn't I thought of that?! I guess I was so caught up in exhaustion that I just couldn't see a way out of it! I made some simple changes and reduced the amount of sleep he was having during the day. It was a big change from the go with the flow attitude that I had always had and it was quite hard work. Within 6 days, he had slept for 8 hours straight at night, it wasn't all night but it was incredible to have such a long sleep at once! Things continued to improve from there. We are now only 2 weeks in and we have had 2 nights of sleeping through - I feel like a new woman!! Actually Ben is happier now too, the change in him has been the best part of this process.
I would recommend Baby Tech Support to anyone struggling with no sleep. I always thought that this is how it is supposed to be - he'll sleep through when he is ready and maybe he would've done eventually but I am so glad that I took steps to get us all some sleep now! Why did I wait?!! Thank you so much Gemma!
Tori K and Ben (9 months)